Self-Love

The more we deeply Love the self, the less we will feel hurt by the lack of Love from others. Deeply loving the self, is not about love of the Ego, its about allowing the Ego to open the door to the Soul, where we explore our depths, our darkness and our light, our wisdom, our truth and our inner beauty…

When we understand true darkness, there is no fear. It is the fertile soil that receives the light of our higher consciousness, birthing and creating new realities and experiences that are free of intrusion, infiltration and invasion.

It is the deep Mystery that we can embrace with Trust of the power of our Spirit, the 5th element that continually transmutes the assaults from techno controls, toxins and the wounds we carry from being up against the distortions of Consciousness and the M/F, that cause us to measure our worth against things that have no real meaning or value – just a superficial obsession that this World has glorified into something we feel we must live up to, because of the pressure to be accepted or wanted.

We must accept and want ourselves as we truly are. When we focus on this, the outside noise starts to dissolve and the inner God/ess begins to emerge and manifest itself, inspiring those who are lost and engaging others and their deepest soul longing to be Free and seen for who they really are. When we see ourselves, we see the Truth of each other. We have to first take that initiative by stripping away all that is false from our Ego, so the Temple can be unveiled.

The Ego/identity is the outside, the first aspect that is greeted, the part of us that must reflect the beautiful Spirit that dwells within… When we do this there are no false illusions, masks or facades that we wear and we invite in no vandals or destroyers who prey upon our amnesia and programmed disconnect, even if they surround us ~ We are embodied and aware of our Divinity, with no shame and no need to hide…

via Return of the Divine Feminine@

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Receiving Without Fear

Receiving Without Fear: Some of us find it easier to give than receive. Since receiving really is a critical part of our first experience (none of us would have survived infancy unless we’d received some care) I’m curious about why this can be such a challenge for many of us.

There’s the obvious culprit: a dominator culture that values power-over tends to see the person who is giving as stronger and, by inference, the one who is receiving as weaker. The implication is that if you have something (time, energy, money, advice, insight, support, compassion etc.) to give, you must be doing something right, and if you need something you cannot provide for yourself, you must be doing something wrong. In part, this goes along with the cultural premium that is placed on independence- a fallacy if there ever was one in an inter-dependent world.

I recently heard a news story about a ninety year old woman who committed suicide because she knew that sometime in the next few years she would not be able to live independently. Now, this is the kind of decision re:quality of life I want to leave up to individuals. Still, I could not help but wonder if the collective value we put on so-called independence might not make it difficult for those of us living in affluent parts of the world to see receiving assistance as we age not only as loss, but also as a way to learn something together. I have gone through periods when illness has necessitated relying heavily on friends and family for care. My delusion of self-sufficiency was shattered, and nothing has softened my heart more to myself and others than needing and receiving help.

Of course receiving, depending on the situation, can sometimes feel unsafe. As discussed in last week’s blog, “Giving Without Resentment,” (http://oriahsinvitation.blogspot.ca/2013/05/giving-without-resentment.html) giving is sometimes (consciously or not) done in a bid to gain power over another or as a way to make a bargain- goods or consideration for later unspecified favours. If these deals are vague and unspoken we can end up feeling we owe another, unsure of what exactly is expected.

But the truth is, as adults, another’s expectations are only our problem if we buy into them. If someone gives me something, my role is to receive it as graciously and as freely as possible. If that person comes back later expecting or pulling for something in exchange that was not agreed to, I need to sit with whether or not I can or want to give what is requested, and to be clear that there was no agreed-to exchange. If this happens repeatedly with another, I will ask that implicit deals be made explicit before receiving. (If you cook me dinner are you expecting something in return?) If this still leaves the other expecting something unspecified in return for giving I may reconsider receiving from this particular person

Honestly, if we stay conscious about and aren’t drawn into obligations we never agreed to, the other will stop trying to create unspoken bargains simply because it’s not working for them.

But what if someone wants to give us something we don’t need or want? Well, the first option is to simply say, “No, thank you,” particularly if what is offered is going to create any suffering (Eg.- a visit, even with someone we love, can be draining when we are ill.) We can receive and appreciate the caring intent but let the other know this is not something we can or want to receive right now. Of course, if we know what we need, the next step is to ask for it- post-graduate work for many of us leery of receiving.

“We accept the love we feel we deserve,” is a line from the movie The Perks of Being a Wallflower. Perhaps, if we are reluctant receivers, it is because we have been taught to believe that we are not deserving- a belief worth challenging as we learn to cherish ourselves.

The sad thing about not trusting our boundaries and our right to say “Yes please,” or “No thank you,” is that we may develop the habit of being non-receptive, of not really taking in what is offered and allowing it to replenish us each day. This can leave anyone who is giving feeling unreceived and the receiver strangely hungry for what is offered but not really received.

We cannot help but be both givers and receivers every day. And the world we co-create is largely shaped and coloured by how we are with ourselves and each other in our giving and receiving. Both can create knots of obligation and resentment or cultivate open-hearted joy and gratitude.

Today, may we take in with gratitude and without fear that which we choose to receive, and may we give without resentment that which we can offered in a sustainable way.

Oriah (c) 2013

Receiving Without Fear: Some of us find it… – Oriah Mountain Dreamer.

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“What is moral, when we do not respect nature? War and nature destruction is normalized, while public lovemaking and nudity is considered offensive and criminalized.“Sexuality and sexual pleasure is one of our greatest gifts and an essential force of nature.”

“Could it be that we reflect our relationship to our inner nature, in how we connect to nature outside us?”

“Maybe we could get over some moral issues about our bodies need to be hidden away or censured, or that sex should be private. We could explore our bodies and sexuality for pleasure, self-development and sexual healing for our planet. Sometimes the people making control, war and nature destruction are the same fuckers suppressing our freedom and sexuality. ”

“Free love, free minds and free bodies are anarchy, and a threat to a society based on power.”

 

Shedding

“Although shedding is difficult for all of us, for a woman to shed what has falsely hidden her more authentic experience is a great liberation. The freedom felt after the loss of persona is spiritually nourishing, and the creativity released from within can be enormous, allowing her to create herself in a more ‘true’ form. This is the process I am calling female shamanism—an ongoing shedding of false selves in favor of the active development of more authentic forms of expression.”
“The snake is the ancient totem of women all over the world and speaks to the lunar nature of feminine biological evolution. A woman’s natural timing is cyclical, circular, spiral, nonlinear, and nonrational. Women need to replace their crystllized identities, as these shatter or dissolve through the shamanic process, with a deliberately fluid ego-identity. If a woman can begin to appreciate and cultivate the value of an identity that is always changing, continually in flux, never completely solid, she begins to align with what shamans and Buddhists describe as ‘reality.’ Those with the sight to see into the world of energy, see that everythong is made of energy, and energy is always in motion. The rest of the world is practicing to become able to accept and tolerate this vision of reality, which is in conflict with the one we were originally taught to believe.”
~ Vicki Noble from Shakti Woman: Feeling Our Fire, Healing Our World – The New Female Shamanism

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Neurodiversity Rewires Conventional Thinking About Brains | Wired Magazine | Wired.com.

“In the late 1990s, a sociologist named Judy Singer—who is on the autism spectrum herself—invented a new word to describe conditions like autism, dyslexia, and ADHD: neurodiversity. In a radical stroke, she hoped to shift the focus of discourse about atypical ways of thinking and learning away from the usual litany of deficits, disorders, and impairments. Echoing positive terms like biodiversity and cultural diversity, her neologism called attention to the fact that many atypical forms of brain wiring also convey unusual skills and aptitudes.”